Ringing in the new year with 4 lessons learned in 2015.
1. Racism come in all colors. There lies a whole rainbow beyond the black and white horizon!
I had two kind reminders of the ignorance that still exists today from 1.) a young lady at a Halloween party and 2.) a stand-up comedian who called out the only black person in an Asian American conference. “Now you know how the rest of us feel.” To top it off, she’s one of the writers for the tepid comedy Fresh Off the Boat.
2. Lobsters are awesome. They’re a bundle of elaborate nerve endings that can detect a 1 degree temperature change in water, can live to be over 100-years-old, and communicate through urine. How cool is that! Like racists, lobsters can come in different colors too:
“Rather than getting weaker and more vulnerable over the years, lobsters become stronger and more fertile each time they shed their shells.” Better. Faster. Stronger.
Now, is it right of us to boil such a fascinating creature alive? Can it even feel pain the way we do? Does its pain count as suffering? More fun facts on lobsters and prodding morality questions can be found in David Wallace’s essay Consider the Lobster.
3. Love is choice. It took a lot of trial-and-error for me to realize the value of self-worth and the sheer power of choice. It’s like realizing you could’ve added butter to your bread this whole time and you could’ve used the toaster, too.
It’s a mutual choice when you tell others you’ve both “fallen in” love. There’s no “falling out” of love. Love doesn’t just wake up one day, think to itself about all the bacon breakfasts you’ve refused to make, how attractive the new secretary at work is and how she loves to eat and cook bacon, so Love grows a pair of legs and walks out on you. When someone “falls out” of love, it means someone decided to stop trying. (Given some relationships aren’t even worth the attempt in the first place).
NOTE: I recommend False Love by Dr. Katz and Dr. Liu. Though relatively dated at 1990, it’s nonetheless applicable to the modern ‘happily ever after’ pill shoved down our throats since the day we were born and discusses people’s fear of commitment (I’m guilty).
4. You’ve got to have a plan. Or you might wind up on the wrong side of the Internet.
But seriously, the more concise the plan, the better. It helps eliminate any wish-washyness and gets you to your goal that much faster. It also might’ve helped when you flew out for an interview… only to find it’s 8 rounds and you’re stumbling over yourself because the senior employees intimidate the living lobster out of you.
You said worked for Yahoo AND Apple? Uhhh, well, I’ve served sushi before…
At least I got to eat a kawaii crepe. ( ɵ̥̥ ˑ̫ ɵ̥̥) I was also treated to dinner by the woman who sat next to me on the plane! Mmm, generosity.
Friends are STILL AWESOME (*^o^)人(^o^*) Old & new alike. Cheers! to an amazing year.